The Deadbeat Chronicles
I started this page mainly as a healing page. In a system where things get done, sometimes there are some who get left behind or neglected. I am a single Mom of three beautiful daughters and have seen many faces of child support enforcement. I want this page to be a sounding board for those of us who were forgotten in the whole quagmire. I have seen many sides and heard many stories. I dont even know if anyone will actually read this page or know of its existance. All I know is what I personally have been through in my journey as a Mom. I have learned alot over the years and know there is alot more to learn. I am ready. Tired, but ready. I mainly want to air what I personally have witnessed and want to open the doors to other single Mom's out there to share.
This is a page for Single Mom's who have no other alternatives. Women who have been through the ringer in the system trying to find some justice out there and some sympathy. I open it up for other Mom's out there to share what they have been through for inspiration and to just air their feelings out in the open. In a world with open doors sometimes it seems they slam shut on us. But, I want to show hope in this page. I would like the survivor's out there to share what they have been through.
So please contact me with your story so we can add it here on this page. It is not here to insult or degrade men at all. It is here to inspire and share. I will not post stories on here just to cut someone down. I want it here to show how strong us Mom's are and that there are alot of us out there. I would like to open this up for Mom's who have done everything in their power and have worked on their own for their home and children. I do not want stories told by mothers who are on state income as a career. Because there are plently of those out there who give us a bad name.
I have worked hard and know there are plenty out there like me. If you have had to resort to state help temporarily due to your situation, that is another matter. I understand very much the economy. This is a page for women who have been in shell-shock due to their bad decisions in chosing the wrong fathers out there. Women who know the comfort of a loving family and have done everything in their power to give that to their children. A page for women who do everything in their power, by gaining all the education on their own for the better of the household. Who have taken any job they could to put food on the table and health insurance. Those women who have not denied visitation to the deadbeats out there. For most of us believe that if they do not want to pay child support to raise their children, that money is "dirty money" when it actually comes in. They want their children to have relationships with their fathers, despite their not providing any money as ordered by the courts. My goal was to make enough money on my own for my children and household that any child support money that actually came in, would go into a trust for the girls to have when they were older. I did not want any money that I had to beg for. It made it tainted. But as the economy grew worse, I unfortunately had to rely on a bit of it until I was able earn a decent amount on my own. I will tell my story later. But I just wanted to make clear the stories I would like to share on this page.
So , please share your stories of inspration and hope to other women out there. Even if the courts do not care about us, since most of us have little money to gain access-we deserve to be heard! :) Hopefully this page will encourage other's to air their struggles and what they have conquered to bring peace in the household. I would like it to be a page where it offeres resources to other Moms. A place where, if you have a home business-you can add your information here and have another resource. So, please read and be inspired on the wonderful Mom's out there who have climbled the tallest of mountains to be where they are and have become better because of it.
-Sharon Desruisseaux
March 23, 2011
This is a page for Single Mom's who have no other alternatives. Women who have been through the ringer in the system trying to find some justice out there and some sympathy. I open it up for other Mom's out there to share what they have been through for inspiration and to just air their feelings out in the open. In a world with open doors sometimes it seems they slam shut on us. But, I want to show hope in this page. I would like the survivor's out there to share what they have been through.
So please contact me with your story so we can add it here on this page. It is not here to insult or degrade men at all. It is here to inspire and share. I will not post stories on here just to cut someone down. I want it here to show how strong us Mom's are and that there are alot of us out there. I would like to open this up for Mom's who have done everything in their power and have worked on their own for their home and children. I do not want stories told by mothers who are on state income as a career. Because there are plently of those out there who give us a bad name.
I have worked hard and know there are plenty out there like me. If you have had to resort to state help temporarily due to your situation, that is another matter. I understand very much the economy. This is a page for women who have been in shell-shock due to their bad decisions in chosing the wrong fathers out there. Women who know the comfort of a loving family and have done everything in their power to give that to their children. A page for women who do everything in their power, by gaining all the education on their own for the better of the household. Who have taken any job they could to put food on the table and health insurance. Those women who have not denied visitation to the deadbeats out there. For most of us believe that if they do not want to pay child support to raise their children, that money is "dirty money" when it actually comes in. They want their children to have relationships with their fathers, despite their not providing any money as ordered by the courts. My goal was to make enough money on my own for my children and household that any child support money that actually came in, would go into a trust for the girls to have when they were older. I did not want any money that I had to beg for. It made it tainted. But as the economy grew worse, I unfortunately had to rely on a bit of it until I was able earn a decent amount on my own. I will tell my story later. But I just wanted to make clear the stories I would like to share on this page.
So , please share your stories of inspration and hope to other women out there. Even if the courts do not care about us, since most of us have little money to gain access-we deserve to be heard! :) Hopefully this page will encourage other's to air their struggles and what they have conquered to bring peace in the household. I would like it to be a page where it offeres resources to other Moms. A place where, if you have a home business-you can add your information here and have another resource. So, please read and be inspired on the wonderful Mom's out there who have climbled the tallest of mountains to be where they are and have become better because of it.
-Sharon Desruisseaux
March 23, 2011